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Word Gems
exploring self-realization, sacred personhood, and full humanity
Soulmate, Myself:
Omega Point
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Freedom from Illusion: Part VIII
Restatement
the cosmic significance of
Woman and Man, Love and Wisdom,
as ultimate reality
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Kairissi. We’d like to offer a restatement of what we’ve learned concerning Love and Wisdom – what it is and why it’s important.
Elenchus. Can you quickly summarize?
K. Woman and Man, Love and Wisdom, represent Mother-Father God. Our favorite mystic on this subject is Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov with his statement on "freedom from illusion."
“The soul ... is itself only one-half of a complete being. For each of us there is a counterpartal [person] of the opposite polarity. And our pilgrimage towards emancipation [from illusion] consists in drawing ever nearer to this balancing factor ... so that, in the end, [while retaining sacred individuality,] we become [effectively One Person,] a male-female being in whom the positive and negative forces are in perfect equilibrium, reflecting the nature of the Male-Female Creator. Only through the perfect union of two souls of the opposite sex can that blending of forces be achieved which brings freedom from illusion and the full experience of Reality.”
E. And, of course, all this easily points us toward its importance. Mother-Father God constitute ultimate reality, which means that Woman and Man, “made in the image,” reflect this preeminence.
K. Elenchus, why don’t you comment on what prompted us to speak today.
E. It won’t seem like much to some, but it affected us deeply. On the “marriage” page, this was posted:
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'anything you do for work is fine with me as long as I can be with you'
Strategic Air Command (1955), June Allyson, Jimmy Stewart
She. I know they’re sending you back to the Air Force. What do you think about it?
He. What do I think? What do you think?!
She. Oh, I don’t care about this house. We can sub-let. That’s no problem.
He. Well, honey…
if you go, then we both go
She. If you go, then we both go! I can handle being an Air Force wife and living in a barracks or whatever they call it. Anything you do is fine with me as long as I can be with you.
He. Do you really mean that?
She. I married you, not a house…
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E. Now, this small item from an old movie could seem inconsequential, but it gave me great pause.
K. Tell me why.
E. Look at this couple – how inclined in spirit they are toward each other. There is no rivalry, no protecting of turf. See how easily she relinquishes control of what’s very important to her, her house, the workshop of her primary activities – and why does she do this? To be with him, as he’s being called away to duties. All this is important, but it’s not the main reason why I wanted to say something here today.
K. What are you really seeing, Elenchus?
E. The import is finely nuanced and difficult to express. But when I saw them speaking together in such heartfelt and selfless manner, it suddenly became clear what was really happening. And it relates to ultimate reality.
K. (silence)
E. But allow me to interrupt myself to ask, why should their conversation be important? A claim to ultimate reality, the ego would assume, surely would involve more pomp and circumstance. If the guy on the couch were to say, “You need to conform to my work because I’m a big shot running a large corporation,” or “my rank is general in the armed forces,” or “I’m a famous politician with power over millions,” then we might find ourselves agreeing that something important is happening. But there’s none of that.
K. Instead, what we see is one couple, with earnest desire, discussing, not his work so much, but how it will affect their relationship.
E. Let me approach this from a different angle. We see here one couple, obviously devoted to each other. There is no jousting for power. Whatever they do, whatever he’s called to do, she insists on being with him, because this is what’s most important to both of them. His work “out there” in the world is actually secondary. Jobs and work assignments come and go, but what they cannot replace is each other, and the shared oneness they know.
K. And so, what we’re really looking at here is a very small representation of Mother-Father God in action as they superintend their work in the universe. They – although strictly speaking they’re not two individuals but a female-male energy, it would seem – they, each to the other, is all there is. What they are to each other is primary and all activities in the universe fall in line behind that.
E. And this is ultimate reality. The oneness, the relationship, they know is ultimate reality. They have each other and now they have all. There is nothing else. And they would never think of doing anything that would minimize the importance of the other or what they have together.
K. Elenchus, to see this truth – I feel like I’ve fallen into an endless swoon of mystical intimacy! Most couples could never have a conversation as these two on the couch. He’d be egotistical about his vaunted work, and she wouldn’t be able to give up her house and white-picket fence.
E. She said, “I didn’t marry a house, I married you.”
K. But how many could say this? – instead, they’re just playing house.
E. We are headed for Summerland. As we grow into our new lives, with indestructible bodies, with super powers, and with minds enhanced by many powers of ten, Twin Soul couples, more and more, will assume duties, and live their lives on a level that will not be so dissimilar to what Mother-Father God experience. This is ultimate reality.
K. When we truly see what's being represented by the couple on the couch, it is absolutely astonishing and mesmerizing!
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Restatement
a clarification of the roles of Love and Wisdom
Kairissi. We’d like to share with our readers that what we’ve said in these discussions concerning the marriage of Love and Wisdom, it’s becoming clear to us, still needs some work. It’s not right.
Elenchus. We’ve suggested that, while a properly united Love and Wisdom will virtually always agree, in those rare instances when viewpoints differ, he will have the last word, and his word is final. This presents a picture of Twin-Soul decision-making which would never, ever occur. There’s something errant with this view.
K. And now we’ve confused everyone, because – isn’t it right and proper that one of them should have the “tie-breaking” vote? And isn’t it inevitable that even congenial minds would eventually find disagreement on something?
E. This sounds very logical and reasonable, and it is a civil way of resolving issues, but this state of loggerheads would never, ever occur between spiritually mature Twin Souls.
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Editor’s final note: Supporting what we’ve said here is the work of Dr. Iain McGilchrist. He puts forward that what is primary in the universe is relationship, with the things related as secondary.
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'One of the most important books ever published - and, yes, I do mean ever... a devastating assault' on the materialist worldview - Oxford Law professor, Charles Foster, for The Guardian
'[McGilchrist's] claims may turn modern ultra-Darwinists purple, but they cannot easily be dismissed' - Nick Spencer, Prospect magazine
Dr. Iain McGilchrist is a psychiatrist, neurologist, philosopher and writer. His 1600-page seminal work, The Matter with Things (2021), ten years in the making, presents the case that the brain’s left and right hemispheres see and interact with the world in profoundly different ways.
Two hemispheres, two worldviews:
Left-brain sees with tunnel vision, a narrowed focus of things in fragmented isolation, desires to analyze parts, is linear, can be ruthlessly goal-oriented, prefers literal interpretations, presses for control, exploitation, and manipulation of environment.
Right-brain is holistic in approach, seeks to understand the entirety, is comfortable with ambiguity and nuance, able to connect the dots, values relationships, looks for context and meaning, perceives a deeper connectedness with the world.
Both hemispheres are needed for a balanced view of reality; however, Dr. McGilchrist warns, a society dominated by left-brain activity can sink into materialistic malaise, will destroy itself by diminishing all that we stay alive for, all that makes us essentially human: virtue, respect for life, the sacred, authentic love, beauty, art and aesthetics, meaning and purpose.
READ MORE - quotations and summaries of The Matter With Things
READ MORE - an interview with Dr. McGilchrist
READ MORE - one chapter from his book with discussion
READ MORE - Kairissi and Elenchus discuss The Matter With Things
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reprinted from the "final K&E dialogue"
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Editor's note:
What went wrong with Kairissi and Elenchus?
From a larger perspective, it’s not possible to go wrong. If two are truly meant to be together, then, eventually, they will be together. But, if not, then it’s best for two to part.
People come into our lives who are not meant to stay but, by their agency, we learn certain lessons. Each less-than-desired – I do not say “failed” – relationship, if we "simply notice," takes us closer to knowing more about ourselves and what we truly want.
K and E were together a long time; not necessarily living together but emotionally involved. They were so dead sure, for so long, that they were destined. Ideally speaking, to state the obvious, it would have been better to have parted much sooner, as the true mate, for each of them, is offstage, but preparing to make debut.
But why do two remain in relationship? even when, in their heart of hearts, they know something is wrong, not quite right.
I sometimes reference a line in the movie, “The Next Three Days,” with Russell Crowe’s character making plans to free his wife from prison. An associate tells him, “You want this too much – you’re gonna ‘eff’ it up.”
We all want this too much. We want that perfect love relationship, that soft voice that comes at night, that embodiment of extreme delight.
And so we turn a blind eye to the lack of deep bondedness, and make excuses for our own desires. Our problem is that we, each of us, because we want this too much, are the easiest ones to fool.
As we’ve discussed elsewhere, relational chaos is all the murkier when there is, in fact, some small degree of soul bond. Didn’t we experience an occasional mystical flash with the other? Didn’t we experience a sense of love that, we knew, was more than infatuation? Yes – all this might have mesmerized us. And so how could we be wrong? we confided to ourselves. But, in the end, unable to make excuses any longer, it all fell apart for us. And as the ship was going down, shocked and dazed to admit defeat, we realized that we had been very wrong.
Moving forward, what can we do to avoid a repeat of this great debacle? First, I would say, we need to state plainly, to ourselves, that we can be wrong in these situations.
This principle is true in physics but even more so in love - why? because we want this too much.
To state that we must allow for the strong possibility that we might be wrong can sound like a tired platitude, but I think it's the most important thing we can say about this whole process. We don't want to do this, and we think we have our good reasons.
But just because we come into feelings of “This is so wonderful it has to be right” doesn’t mean it actually is right. And we so easily manufacture "proof" that "it's God's will"-- because "I met him at church" or "he reminds me of my dearest relative" or "I've never felt so deeply about anyone." But it takes more than this to pass muster.
And now we’re very troubled as we counsel ourselves, “If I can’t trust my own intense feelings, my inner guidance, what hope do I have to ever get this right?”
However, we can get this right, and here’s how:
There’s some good advice in the New Testament to rescue us: “Test the spirits whether they be of God.” “Test the spirits” means, we have impulses of the mind, soul, and spirit coming to us on a regular basis. And just because something feels really good, or seems right, or we think it’s a sign from heaven, or a divine synchronicity, or Saint Jude gave me a sign, etc., etc., doesn’t mean that it’s a golden message to us with God’s highest approval.
We have to test these feelings. And this is all the more important in the arena of love relationships, because this is where we are most easily fooled. We want this too much.
I’ve sometimes used the term “confirmation hearings.” If you’ve met someone whom you believe to be “the one,” then both of you need to enter a time of confirming what you think you’re feeling.
Now, maybe the feelings are real, and maybe they have the sturdiest ontology, that you’re both eternal mates. But maybe you’re not.
We need to give this some time for serious introspection. That's what an engagement period is for. We need to mentally put the potential beloved, and ourselves, on trial. Can we survive a brutal and piercing cross-examination?
It’s important, for example, to engage in what I’ve called “sidewalk dialogues,” just walking and talking, discussing the big questions of life. It's a good way to get to know how the mind of the other works.
People are scared to talk about important issues. It’s too threatening to the ego, a big risk to make oneself vulnerable and open to another human being; far easier to hide than to reveal the real person behind the mask; as Elizabeth Barrett put it, a mask we hold up with both hands.
Sex is the easy part, obtainable anywhere, but to actually get to know someone, what they’re really like, the deeper person, how they think, a real meeting of the minds, learning of another’s goals, values, aspirations, what’s really important to them -- what could be better than these “confirmation hearings” as prelude, and basis, to authentic relationship?
But all this tends to be too high-minded for egocentric teens, young adults, and even most of the older ones. However, there’s a natural penalty, ready to smack us about, if we ignore this “testing of the spirits.”
Of course, we can always blind ourselves, let it slide, because “we want this too much,” but no one gets away with anything, for living disingenuously, hedonistically, materialistically, thoughtlessly, and many of us paid that penalty, and continue to pay. The price was high, more than we could afford. I cringe to recall my own missteps.
If you, in fact, do enjoy an eternal soul bond with another, then, not to worry, this will be confirmed, again and again, in the “sidewalk dialogues.”
But, if not, then set each other free more expeditiously, with a minimum of mutual wasting of another’s time and energy. Do not try to make this work if it's not meant to work. How can you know? - "test the spirits" and find out.
You have a true mate, "somewhere out there," and why should you keep both of yourselves waiting, and delay your highest and best joy?
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Freedom from Illusion, Part I
Freedom from Illusion, Part II
Freedom from Illusion, Part III
Freedom from Illusion, Part IV
Freedom from Illusion, Part V
Freedom from Illusion, Part VI
Freedom from Illusion, Part VII
Freedom from Illusion, Part VIII
,See the sister-article on "Lucid Dreaming, Lucid Living."
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