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The Perfect Mate
Rosie and Alex
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"Love, Rosie is a 2014 romantic comedy-drama film directed by Christian Ditter from a screenplay by Juliette Towhidi, based on the 2004 novel Where Rainbows End by Irish author Cecelia Ahern. The film stars Lily Collins and Sam Claflin, with Christian Cooke, Tamsin Egerton, Suki Waterhouse, Jamie Beamish and Jaime Winstone in supporting roles."
Plot, in brief: Rosie and Alex have been friends almost as long as they can remember, since the first year of school. The ubiquity of mutual presence, during growing-up years, both in and out of the classroom, created for them a kind of taboo against thinking of each other, or at least expressing such, in romantic terms. Later, during teen years, an incident associated with a high school dance, created a misunderstanding.
Alex mistakenly interpreted Rosie’s seeming disinterest as rejection. This gross disconnect sends each of them spinning out of each other’s orbit, as they enter adulthood living their lives pursuing others; which disingenuity belies a hidden motivation of forgetting and repressing the memory of a lost love.
Kairissi. Alex said, "I have always loved you." Does he mean this was true when he was six years-old?
Elenchus. No, not the way a mature man would mean it. She might be able to say this, because Love is woman's primary domain, but, for him, he will realize this truth only in retrospect; someday, when he's alone and far away, he will discover, to his shock, that he is missing her; in this existential coming to himself, he now comes to her, and finally perceives -- everything -- clearly.
K. The high-school dance incident was their big chance to break out of the carefully manufactured “ludicrous proposition.” But it didn't work out for them.
E. It wasn't yet their time; you can't make a cake bake faster by turning up the heat, you'll just burn it.
K. Tell me, buddy – in our travels, we seem to be meeting, so often, this issue of meant-to-be lovers “out of phase” with each other.
E. One’s ready and the other is not; back and forth.
K. That high school dance was very dangerous for them. A totally wrong meaning was taken; and, of course, the other retaliated. This is what hot-heads do.
K. Next thing you know, many years have passed and misery now comes up with the sun, becomes a way of life. In fact, you’re so miserable at this point, you think it’s normal and can't even imagine what it was ever like to feel good.
E. It's the land of the walking dead. However, finally, Rosie begins to take her power back over her own life. She gets off the “marriage-go-round” and realizes that, no matter what happens, she just needs to wait for him, no matter how long it takes.
K. For once in her life she's going to do the right thing. It's not pleasant or pretty, but at least she's living authentically again. What’s bothering me is – just how common is this “ships passing in the night” thing?
E. It’s more common than we know; in fact, for those who lack “eyes in their head,” for those who are still immature, it’s unavoidable; almost a required course for graduation. However, a day finally comes... and then, suddenly, you just see... in the middle of dropping your ice-cream, suddenly, you just see... that, a long time ago... you lost somebody.
I've been waiting for you since I toddled, and now, finally, I see myself at last
John Sebastian at Woodstock
Darling Be Home Soon
"Darling, be home soon, I couldn't bear
to wait an extra minute if you dawdled,
my Darling, be home soon, it's not just
these few hours, but I've been waiting
since I toddled for the great relief of
having you to talk to, and now... I think
I've come to see myself at last, and I
see that the time I spent confused
was the time I spent without you..."