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Soulmate, Myself:
Omega Point

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Kairissi. It feels like I’ve been on trial in a courtroom. And you’ve been both judge and jury, and have condemned me.

Elenchus. I’ve tried to state how I see things.

K. Yes, but you don’t see very much. It’s all very one-sided, and you’ve made yourself out to be the victim.

E. I think everything I’ve said is true.

K. Some of it is true, to a certain extent, but the proportion is wrong.

Dorothy Sayers, Gaudy Night: "The proportion and relations of things are just as much facts as the things themselves; and if you get those wrong, you falsify the picture really seriously."

E. Alright… tell me where I’m wrong.

K. You’ve painted me a certain way, but there’s a lot you haven’t considered. It‘s hard to know where to start, so I’ll just begin. For example, you’ve said that I’m not like you because you lived your life trying to find the truth, but I didn’t do that. You’ve said that, in your early years, you had this great desire to study the Bible, you thought truth was in the Bible, and so you devoted yourself to that study. By implication, because I didn’t devote myself to those things, I was a lightweight, a young materialist in the world, uncaring about the truth, and only interested in frivolous things. Isn’t this a summary of how you characterized our young adult years?

E. I suppose I did intimate these things.

K. But here’s what I see. Truth is not to be found in an ancient book. Krishnamurti spent years explaining things like this. The religious man, deifying an ancient book, is conditioned by his own fears, his cultural upbringing. What he sees in the book is a reflection of his own preprogrammed images. And then, in this existential charade, he congratulates himself that he has found the “truth.”

E. (silence)

K. Here’s what really happened way back then: You had certain academic and philosophical proclivities. Literary analysis came easy for you. You liked the arena of ideas, research, and solving mysteries. And so, in your youthful naiveté, convincing yourself that “truth,” with a capital T, could be found in a book, you just loved that because you like books. Do you see the circular reasoning? I would argue that those who seek for truth in ancient books might actually find themselves farther from “the truth” than the average person. I say this because so many of the religious, those who study ancient books, fancy themselves superior and elite, and are among the most corrupt of history.

E. (silence)

K. And here’s where you went wrong with your assessment of me as not measuring up to your grandiose pursuit of the truth. Recall that Plotinus and other philosophers said that God, and transcendent truth, might be accessed by way of beauty in the natural world, and art which represents it. As you know, I have always been drawn to beauty and art, and this, for me, has been a kind of sacrament, has helped me feel closer to God. And for you to suggest that your life-path to “the truth” was superior to mine is not only a gross distortion of the facts but an arrogance and self-aggrandizement.

E. I hadn’t quite seen it that way before.

K. I’m sure you had not, which is why you’ve so self-righteously condemned me, and said things like, I am not like you -- you, the great seeker of truth – and I am the airhead, and not on your level. We could never be married, you assert, because I violate “soulmate, myself,” I’m so foreign to your lofty mindset of devotion to the truth, I could never live on Mount Olympus with you.

E. They say that, in a life-review, people cringe as they realize what they did, what had lain hidden. Is this what’s happening to me?

K. That will be for you to decide. But I’m not finished with this cross-examination. You have stated, or at least implied, that I’m a slow learner of spiritual things, a dullard, that it would take me a long time to catch up to you, for us to be mates, equally matched. First, I’m not so sure that I am lagging behind you. But even if this were to be the case, I think people can change if they want to change, and it doesn’t have to take so very long. Remember that concept in biology of “causal efficacy”? We spoke of this on the “evolution” page. It means that an organism has the ability to direct its own rate of growth. If there is sufficient intention, motivation to grow, then this will-power can make a big difference. You have seen yourself as “above” because you like books, and you think this makes you better. But I’m telling you that I have the power to become what I need to be – if I decided that I wanted to be with you. And, as you know, Spirit Guides, informing us through psychic-medium, have been on my side in this, and have said that I would be ready, and in short order, contradicting your “holier than thou” judgment of our situation.

E. (silence)

K. In this world, my health has not been perfect, and this has affected my ability to present myself in the best way. My mental outlook has been clouded at times due to impairments. But in the coming real world I will have a new and perfect body, no longer held back by infirmities. And then you will see what has always been in my heart, now blossoming in full flower.

E. (sighing)

K. You have insulted me that I am not interested in doing the will of God, that I would not make priority entering “the harvest fields” of God. Your evidence for this is that I had not pursued “the truth” as you had done – meaning, in an ancient book. Well, I’ve already addressed this error, but there’s another aspect to this that really bothers me. You’ve been intimating that, because I did not live for the truth, as you fancy yourself to have done, that we are not alike, that we violate “soulmate, myself,” and that you don’t see how I could ever change, be interested in things of God, and talk like Jamie Sullivan. I think this is particularly offensive and high-handed of you, and it’s counterfeit logic. Here’s why: A desire to do God’s will is something every maturing person will eventually have. It’s part of our made-in-the-image DNA. This is not a matter of personal taste or private choice. It’s not like saying, some people like country music, some like rock, and some like classical. It’s not arbitrary like that. Every maturing son and daughter of God will yet desire to do the will of the divine Parent(s). What this means is, you’re wrong to suggest that I would ever be on the outside of spiritual goals and purpose, that I would never be one to make priority the work of God. I have my own way of exhibiting this desire, and you have been arrogant to judge me otherwise.

E. What do you want to do about all this?

K. I just want to be treated fairly, like a human being. I just want things to be normal and natural, and not this constant judgment and third-degree. You and I have a long history, and we both know, in our heart of hearts, that we want and need to be together. I’m not saying there won’t be things to work out, I know you need certain things for a marriage to work, and I’m not unwilling to give you what you want, but – despite all of our discussions and insights – you’re still not seeing me as a real live person who needs certain things, too.

E. Yes… of course…

K. I’m done with cross-examination, but I started this pleasant conversation by stating that the two great principles of true love have been misapplied with us.

E. Tell me what you see.

K. We had a shallow view. Elizabeth Barrett’s “not for a reason” was elevated too highly. I don’t want to minimize it because it’s extremely important, but perceiving in a lover an undefined reason to be with him is just the starting point.

E. That undefined reason is just an awareness of the “tuning fork” soul-energies.

K. Yes, and we need that as a foundation, but “not for a reason” should not mean that we do not also crave the true mate to have a “perfect resume.”

E. They’re not mutually exclusive.

K. And I think that’s a mistake we made in our analysis. The “perfect resume” is a necessary but not sufficient basis for marriage.

E. In other words, we need the underlying soul-energies but if a prospective mate is immature then the “perfect resume” will still be more hope-and-promise than reality.

K. We’d have to wait for the stellar attributes. And this is where “soulmate, myself” comes into its own. We need to be with a mate who is like ourselves, who wants the same thing from life. But immaturity will block this similar perspective.

E. It’s actually all quite simple when it’s laid out like this.

K. Elenchus, I don’t think we have any real problems. We’d gotten off on a wrong track, I think we fell into some traps by the ego, but… in my deepest heart, I know we’re going to be fine.