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How To Sit Quietly
In A Room Alone



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"I drink not from mere joy in wine nor to scoff at faith – no, only to forget myself for a moment, that only do I want of intoxication, that alone." Omar Khayyam



At the time of this writing, the Word Gems site conceals 1,300 documents; if printed, 10,000 pages might ensue.

I no longer feel the need to add anything to this corpus of information. Especially, with this final chapter of the book, I ask myself: if required to choose one most important concept from the many gold-nuggets I’ve been privileged to see, what would it be?

I think it’s the “mind the gap” principle - introduced in the “Surrender and Acceptance” page, and further discussed in the “Zen” article, along with the “Just Sitting” chapter of this book.



“Mind the gap” means that one perceives the great existential separation between “true self” and “false self.” It allows one to say, “I am here, the real me, reveling in a quietude of peace, and over there, across the divide, is the emotional chaos which, for so long, has been masquerading as my essential self but, in fact, is an imposter.”

This is not a truth to believe; merely believing it will avail little. Jesus said we must “know the truth,” intuitively know it, not “believe the truth,” and this knowing will set us free.


How to Sit Quietly in a Room Alone

This "knowing the truth" will also allow us to sit quietly in a room alone, enjoying our own existence.

I feel there is no more important precept that one might possess to prepare one’s spirit for life in the next dimensions. Why is this? It is so because “mind the gap” means that you’ve not only accessed, but have crossed over the threshold into, the domain of the sacred soul.

In that celestial realm of certainty, wherein one is linked to Universal Consciousness, all mysteries will yet bow the neck and bend the knee to one’s investigations. In time, the hidden regularities of the universe will disgorge themselves as you come to understand more and more and more… and not even some of those on the other side for thousands of years, who have not yet perceived the efficacy of “mind the gap,” will be able to stand against you.


Editor’s note: Just because you will be able to sit quietly in a room alone, doesn’t mean that you’ll be caught there too often – I mean it's a nice skill to list on your resume, and we’ll always need or want a little meditation time to keep ourselves aligned with the Divine Parent(s), but they didn’t create us to sit at home too much.

The ability to sit quietly in a room alone means that you’ve discovered your “true self” – and this is absolutely vital before the ancient Spirit Guides will allow you to be with your destined eternal romantic Twin Soul. Read about it here:



 Alive Inside may be close to the most inspiring film you'll ever see.



Music can heal the despairing soul as no other balm or medicinal agent. It might reawaken us to life and love lost, vivify the battered human spirit, offering hope of celestial tomorrows rooted in untapped human potential.

All this we sense to be true. But, even more, in recent years, one man has been engaged in a private crusade to bring music, the personal songs of one’s life, to dementia patients – with astonishingly wonderful results.

See the website: www.aliveinside.us


For our purposes here, as we sit in a quiet small room, at times we'll also want to listen to the music we’ve loved, especially from our youths. This theme-music of our lives seems to have a special ability to unlock the long-barred doors of the heart and soul. It can be a tremendously effective aid in accessing the true self.






Restatement: ‘relaxing into the resistance’

We don’t understand this instruction of "relaxing" which Peter Russell spoke of. It’s counter-intuitive. If something needs to be done, we want to attack it directly. But that approach won’t work in this case.

This analogy might help. Think of a glass being filled by rushing tap-water.


The glass is overflowing with water. In this process, the water in the glass is being displaced by new water coming in.

In principle, this can help us when the dysfunctional ego swamps us with hurtful mental images. We need to displace the bad image with something new coming in.

Our natural impulse is to fight the bad image. We try very hard not to think of it and to put it away. However, in this display of will-power we inadvertently strengthen to the ego. The harder we fight, the more energy the ego takes in.

Instead of direct frontal attack, of gritting our teeth and trying very hard to overcome the bad image, we need to “relax into the resistance.” We want to “displace” not directly attack. We do this by “simply noticing” the “life within.”

When the ego attacks, mentally focus on, for example, the life in your hands. Can you feel the tingling? Stay with it. Allow, if possible, the scope of perceived living energy to encompass more of the body.

The ego cannot “play sad movies in the head” while, at the same time, we focus on the life within.

Sometimes the ego’s attack comes with such force that, for a while, nothing seems to help and center us. But stay with it. Focus on the energy within. The storm will break.