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Spirit-Guide Margaret explains the number one reason why people spend time in dark detention 

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Editor’s note: The two dozen examples of evidence/testimony featured on the Afterlife page are potent, each in its own way. It is very difficult to select a favorite. However, if required to choose a single afterlife testimony as most meaningful, it might be Heaven Revised by Eliza Bisbee Duffey (1838-1898). The author, during her mortal life, was an advocate of women’s rights, an independent thinker, a courageous person – she reminds me of the very wise Elizabeth Fry.

I make the assertion concerning the importance of this book – which is free to read on the internet – as it touches upon a most personal aspect of our future lives in the coming “real world” – romance, marriage, and Twin-soul love. We will find that the true marriage and the true romance – I say “true,” in that, we speak here of a spiritual process, an affinity extending well beyond that of fevered attractions based on brain-chemical interplay - become catalyst to spiritual evolvement and utmost happiness in the coming realms. In fact, as you will learn from the words of Margaret, Spirit-Guide, true Eros constitutes the chief happiness on the other side, so much so that, heaven would not be heaven without it! Margaret makes this very plain.

Another very important aspect of the book, an issue that will affect not a few upon crossing over: Twin souls are sometimes temporarily “out of phase” with each other in terms of their development. See the excerpt of Mary, Spirit-Guide and her Twin-soul, Robert, whom she regularly visits in the Dark Realms, encouraging and pleading with him to join her in their “real life” in Summerland. I have read of this before, that of one Twin attempting to help the mate who’s fallen behind, but Heaven Revised’s offering is most poignant.

See an extended excerpt from Heaven Revised by Eliza Bisbee Duffey by CLICKING HERE

The following is taken from Spirit-Guide Margaret's discourse on the nature of authentic romantic love in Summerland. I have highlighted her comments on the number one reason why people spend time in dark detention.

Here among us there are no marriage bonds which bind

the soul to the corpse of a dead affection, but there is love

fuller and more perfect than the earth knows anything about.

You are still tinged with the earthly ideas, and the whole teach-

ing of earth is to degrade sexual affection, and sink it to the

lowest depths. Men and women who hesitate to take in vain

the name of a purely imaginary deity, will not scruple every

day of their lives to profane by light word or unhallowed

deed the most sacred part of their natures. Truly, perverted

love is a terrible demon. It is the embodiment and personifica-

tion of selfishness. It tears, it defiles, it destroys and it exults

in its destruction. It sends more victims to the lower spheres

than any other single cause.

You must look there in these spheres of lost spirits, if you would know to what depths a man and a woman will sink who blaspheme against the holy spirit of love which should find a pure temple in every heart.

• Editor's note: This entire section, a discourse on authentic romance, should be scrutinized, word for word. Here Margaret employs a biblical phrase, "blaspheme against the holy spirit of love." In order to properly discern Margaret's meaning, one must first understand the original biblical reference. I cannot offer full exposition here, but, instead, I will offer a paraphrase of Margaret's message: People blaspheme, that is, speak evil of, and disregard, the promptings of the Purified Consciousness regarding true romance. They do this in the secret chambers of their own inner selves. People marry to get something, in effect, often use their wedding partners to fulfill private desires; however, to "sin against the Purified Consciousness of true romantic love" means that people are not totally guiltless in these actions. On some level there is awareness of wrong-doing. Deep down they harbor secret reservations, doubts, concerning the impropriety of marrying to merely satisfy materialistic/lower-level psychological, animal/mammalian cravings. It's a form of using another person as an object, a means to some other end, rather than love, per se, for the person! And this common form of merchandizing people, of selfishness, of "sinning against the Purified Consciousness," will send more people to Dark Detention on the other side than any other reason.

But search out the possibilities of your own soul, and then tell me if love - real [romantic] love - is the impure impulse, the degrading impulse, the subject for jest, which it is so almost universally regarded. Is not pure [romantic] love the very essence of unselfishness? Does it not ennoble the soul and purify the heart ? Does it not arouse higher impulses and bring the dawn of a spiritual vision to which one can never attain without it? Is there any earthly happiness which brings mortals nearer heaven than this sentiment of the soul, which by even good people is underrated and despised, and which by the ignorant and evil is turned into a curse?

I tell you, a man and a woman who truly love one another on earth are already in heaven, and when you open the door of the Spirit-world to admit them, would you shut it in the face of their [romantic] love? No; let it enter in all its fullness, and glorify their lives here as there."

 "But" -

"Yes; I mean all [including sexual love]. Do not the flowers bloom, and bloom immortally here ? Every opening blossom is a manifestation of love, a sexual union. Would you deny immortality to the flower of life [romantic love], to that which even as we find it, good, bad and indifferent, is, after all, all that makes life tolerable? It is at the source of all action. It is, when unperverted, the deepest and purest impulse of every heart.

It is the constant theme of your novelists, the perpetual inspiration of your poets. It has incited to the grandest and most heroic deeds, and the noblest self-sacrifice. There is no other emotion [as romantic love] which has such power over the human heart, and which has so controlled the destiny of nations and of mankind in general. Yes, I know you have been used to a cant [i.e., the same old song] about [sterile] spiritual love [as the basis for marriage or the highest motivator], which you have not yet forgotten, even with your present experience in the Spirit-world. You have entertained a dim shadowy idea [from past Earth teachings] that spirits stand stationary like spiritual suns, sending out beams of love, thus enveloping one another; if that is not your precise idea, it is something quite as unspiritual and illusive. But you did not leave your heart behind you with your earthly body. You have the capacity for loving intensified; and, not only that, you have arms with which to embrace.

Is The Conjugal Less Than The Maternal?

Would you have been satisfied if, when you first beheld your long lost children, you had stood at a distance and regarded them with your imaginary spiritual affection? No; you instinctively stretched out your arms to them, and took them to your heart, and your kisses were on their lips, their brows, their cheeks. Is the conjugal affection less than the maternal? No; my children, we shall all some day, if we may not now, clasp to our hearts someone whom we love, and who will love us with equal ardor in return; but not until we have entirely divested ourselves of the degrading earthly ideas concerning the purest, most sacred, most spiritual sentiment of the human heart [that is, perfected romantic love]!"

"But I thought you said there were no marriages here," we both remarked.

"Nor are there. There are no mismated couples; no degrading selfishness [i.e., the male] on one side, no misery and unrecognized self-sacrifice [i.e., the female] on the other. They are as the angels [that is, living in perfect harmony and complete joy, neither party using the other as a means to some other end].

You Have Not Come To The Arctic Regions

Earthly bonds are perpetuated only as the heart has sanctioned them. But [perfected romantic] love is the atmosphere of this life. You have not come to the arctic regions, but to the region where love is a pervading influence, warming all hearts. No spirit can find its most perfect development who misses from his life the experience which [romantic] love can give him. If he has lived a loveless life on earth, the possibility is still reserved for him here. The certainty will come to him in the future. His being cannot be perfected without it."