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|How is it possible for Twin Soul romantic love to endure for eternity, for ages and eons without end, when its hapless earthly counterpart hardly survives the honeymoon?
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Much of the science information offered in this writing is from David Bodanis’s excellent book, E=mc2, the story of Einstein’s monumental insight into the nature of reality.
What’s that you say?
You say you were in love once, well smitten and starry-eyed, and it was fun while it lasted, but it faded pretty quickly, and so now you know all about how it works, and there's not too much to get excited about, right? Nothing more going on here than the zeal of the bodily organs, just Mother Nature doing her job to perpetuate the species. No big deal, just mammalian instinct in momentary high flight. As the joke goes about having kids, “5 seconds of pleasure, 20 years of misery.”
the nasty habit of disappearing overnight
Well, it’s a popular sentiment, with lots of true-believers around the world and in your neighborhood; lots of people who’ve been burned and are now well jaded, ready to offer sincere testimony to the insubstantiality. A super-abundance of literature and popular song, too, proclaim that romantic love is a concept for the naïve, the half-ripe and jejune, those who haven't been around the block yet. It just doesn’t last. Even the Beatles made this clear with their famous "nasty habit of disappearing overnight.” So get over it already, grow up, be mature, just accept life as it is -- real love has nothing to do with romantic fever and hearts twitterpating. That’s just kids’ infatuation.
the ancient wise in Summerland do not support this lackluster view of life and love
The problem is, on the other side, they’re not buying it -- this cynical, cheap sophistication, this fin de siècle view of how life works. Their response is, "you, those still on the Earth, are the ones who need to get over something."
See the “prologue” to “The Wedding Song” for a long list of quotations from Spirit Guides and others in Summerland who insist that romantic love, and all the delightful trimmings, will last forever.
Editor’s note: In mitigation, it should be noted that, in the not so good "neighborhoods” of Summerland, they’re not so keen on romantic love. We discussed this in the “500 testimonies from the other side” writing. Those of this equivocal persuasion are heavily led by the dysfunctional ego.
Virtually all of the Word Gems writings, to one degree or another, are built upon the “scientific evidence for the afterlife.” This philosophical basis is not easily set aside, nor shall it be. And so, when a claim is made that “those on the other side” support a certain view of how life works, it comes with a force supported by more than mere opinion or empty belief. It’s as real as the ground you walk on.
But even if we accept this much, how does it work? Our experience with romantic love in this world is not so encouraging. Why would it be any different over there? After all, the Spirit Guides also say that, in the moment of transitioning to the other side, we’re exactly the same, in terms of mind and feelings; this being the case, why would romantic love unfold differently for us in Summerland?
let’s approach this question by generalizing and extending it to other energies, concerning which similar claims have been made
In my studies and writings concerning Einstein’s E=mc2 achievements, it occurred to me that his radically new vision of the universe was met with very similar doubts as that encountered with the issue of a romantic forever-love. Further, as I will be arguing, the solutions, in principle, to both of these contested areas, relativity and romance, resolve themselves along similar lines.
Editor’s note: At this point I should appeal to a joke Einstein told: "Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity."
When we hear the assertion, “true romantic love will last forever,” we’re tempted to say, “ridiculous! there’s not enough energy to keep it going that long.” And when Einstein said a half-pound of matter could destroy much of a city, the typical response was, “ridiculous! there’s not enough energy there to make that happen.”
E=mc2 comes with many ramifications – the internet offers a great many explanatory writings, or you can see my own if you like – but a primary significance is this:
there is an enormous amount of energy hidden even in tiny amounts of matter
How can this be?
Our day-to-day common sense believes that it understands energy.
For example, a single-flame candle…
We say that we know about candles. There might be a pound of wax here. It will emit a small amount of energy for several hours, and then it will be gone. Nothing too sensational about this.
But Einstein would say that this innocuous pound of wax contains enough energy to take out all or much of a good-sized city.
We have a hard time accepting this. So did President FDR.
Einstein’s 1939 warning letter to FDR
In 1939 Einstein, having fled the Nazi regime, was working at Princeton. His colleagues in Europe informed him of most troubling news, the Nazi’s progress toward making the first A-bomb.
Einstein wrote to President FDR, warning him of the dire situation. He expressed that “quick action” was required; meaning, the fate of Western civilization was at stake; exclaiming that, “extremely powerful bombs of a new type” were being constructed by America’s enemies, of a destructive magnitude such that “a single bomb … carried by boat and exploded in port, might well destroy the whole port together with some of the surrounding territory."
Wow -- the "surrounding territory," too!
FDR responded virtually with a toneless form letter, a brush-off "thank you for the interesting note, and you have a nice day"
FDR ignored and shelved the famous scientist’s letter. Why? Because he and his advisors didn’t believe that one little bomb could effect such destruction; they didn’t believe that it could emit enough energy to warrant their attention; effectively, their position was, "We know all about power, we have a whole army here outfitted for war, and we're not losing sleep over one little bomb. That's crazy."
“Who do you think you are, Einstein or something?”
Editor's note: It's a "miracle," or maybe Providential, that America did not lose that War. Germany was a well-oiled super-killing machine with the most cutting-edge scientists in the world, led by the brilliant Werner Heisenberg, father of the quantum "Uncertainty Principle," and now they were sprinting toward creating an ultimate weapon of mass destruction. But American leaders, lost in yesterday's thinking, took seriously their own opinions rather than the stern warning of the originator of E=mc2.
Why should we believe that a pound of candle wax might level a city when its single flame cannot even warm a room?
We should believe it because not all fire is created equally.
chemical fire vs nuclear fire
We think we know what fire is. We see it here with the candle.
what we call “fire” is a release of hidden energy from the unseen substructure of matter
The fire of a candle derives from the rearranging of electrons in the outermost shell of an atom. Dr. Tyler DeWitt explains in more detail.
It’s been said that all of chemistry might be defined as the positional changes of electrons in an atom’s outer shell. When elements come together to form new compounds, they do so by swapping, or sharing, or giving up, or capturing extra electrons. In this process, energy is often released from the atom. Some of this release we know as common fire.
This chemical fire can be destructive enough in large amounts. But we’re not frightened by a candle’s modest single flame. We see this as a small amount of energy, a tiny benign fire.
But there is no small and harmless amount of nuclear fire.
99%+ of the hidden energy of an atom resides in the nucleus; comparatively, the electrons house next to nothing, extremely little
This is so because 99.99% of the atom’s mass is in the nucleus. The electrons present a ghost-like mass, a mere specter of substance. Essentially, all the energy is in the core.
Einstein’s 1905 E=mc2 began to inform the scientific community, and the general public, of the massive storehouse of energy hidden deep within the atom's core. However, even in 1939, his letter to FDR, it was still generally disbelieved that Einstein could be correct. How could there be so, so much energy locked away in the tiny nucleus?
However, all the world was taken to school on August 6, 1945 when a small A-bomb, just a "firecracker-size," incinerated Hiroshima, 100,000 citizens, in a single hot-flash moment.
in like manner, The Wedding Song proclaims, and insists, that no one believes in, or understands, the ultimate power and energy hidden away in the hearts and souls of authentic romantic lovers
The Wedding Song, employing various artful devices, speaking like an indefatigable Old Testament prophet, stands firm in the message that true love is virtually unknown on planet Earth. Nobody gets it. Ironically, they all think they know, but in fact they know nothing.
human love as chemical fire
All human loves, typically, do not last very long. It’s not just the thrill of the honeymoon, but even so-called best friends drift apart when new paths are taken, or a mother’s love grows cold if we disappoint her, or the friendly neighbor withdraws if she feels slighted.
All these common loves are like chemical fire. The underlying energy is rather limited, a “poverty,” as Mother Teresa used the term for those who kill babies to support a dark, hedonistic, selfish lifestyle; which, even in this, is also one more human love turned to stone, the natural love of parent for helpless child.
"they had great chemistry together"- and that was their problem
These “chemical fire” loves are supported, if at all, by mere and fleeting mammalian instinctual drive, biological impulse, passions of personality preference, and the like. Ask John and Mary, they’ll explain it to you.
Evanescent loves, like a butterfly in the sun for a few days, spin about us at the surface of being, at the rim of psychological reality. There’s no real substance to any of it. It can seem real enough at the moment, but then, so does a single candle flame if you burn your finger with it. But it’s nothing, really.
And this is what The Wedding Song is getting at. All of our base-passion loves are doomed to fade away. And yet, in the midst of this predictable exodus, the great Troubadour Spirit Guides proclaim that there’s a hidden energy, domiciled within your deepest person, that will light up your life, set the cosmos ablaze, with a special someone, and that fire will last forever.
Again, this “poverty” of interpersonal energy is not restricted to the domain of romance. Elsewhere I have commented that it’s not just the true mate for whom we yearn, but for the true neighbor, the true friend, the true mother, the true brother and sister. Without an accessing of authentic love, in all of its forms, based on the “nuclear fire” of the soul, all human interactions will be tainted with ego and will yet disappoint us; we’re not capable of more without that deeper foundation. Recently, I’ve come to perceive the reality of this “poverty” of the spirit in a related context. There are several writers and thinkers to whom I owe a great debt, as a student should pay a measure of homage to a teacher. However, even among those whom I consider to be wise and sighted, virtually, in every case, if I listen to them long enough, they will say something that betrays a poisonous “I thank thee Lord that I am not like other men,” a subtle signaling of “I am better.” How can this happen? I wonder. These great teachers have led others to the promised land of wisdom and enlightenment, but then, in an unguarded moment of hubris, they throw it all away and make untoward comment just like any spiritually blind person on the street. This is more than unnerving. However, theirs is a surface wisdom based on “chemical fire” with the real, deeper stuff still out of reach. They might glimpse some things, even great things, but their day of final liberation from the ego is yet to come, even though they might have shown the way to the light for others.
In view of these thoughts, the words of Jesus take on new meaning. On one occasion, as he was teaching, someone passed a message to him that his mother and siblings were outside. Embarrassed for the family reputation, they’d come to take him away, as if he were a lunatic: ‘He is beside himself,” they raved. To which Jesus asserted, “Who is my mother and who is my brother and sister?” meaning, those whose spirits and actions are founded upon the inner sacred person represent the true mother, the true brothers and sisters, the true friends, with others as unfamiliar – in a literal sense, “not family.”
union of spirits vs. union of bodies
You’ll want to explore the full discussion in The Wedding Song, but the Guides say that the real action takes place with the “union of spirits"; a deepest union on the level of core consciousness.
As we learn from the fathers of quantum mechanics, consciousness, not matter, is the primary substance in the universe.
This means that even the hidden energy in the atom’s core is not primary but secondary, and in fact derives from the “parent energy,” Universal Consciousness.
And when two authentic lovers, Twin Souls, come together, it is not for a brief summer’s love, but for endless times to come. Why is this? It is so because their love is the fruit of a “union of spirits,” an intermingling of consciousness. This latter is the true storehouse of energy in the universe, an aspect of the essence of Mother-Father God. It is the love that knows no end.
For Twins, it is a romantic love of endless scope and dimension in their eternal lives.
the great Newton spent 20 years experimenting with alchemy – and had nothing to show for his labors
Before the modern age of chemistry, there were the alchemists, ones famously characterized by an attempt to turn lead into gold. Even Newton, who invented a physics that would endure for 250 years and would take us to the Moon, failed in his alchemical efforts.
Why did Newton fail? What does alchemy fail?
Alchemy is based on chemistry. Heating various elements might produce new compounds, but these can be disentangled and undone. New compounds, new molecules, do not fundamentally alter the underlying building-block atoms. And this is why the atoms of the elements lead and gold were never changed by the alchemists.
However, if you could set up a chem lab in the belly of a supernova star, with its incredible level of heat, you might get some alchemical action. In that super-inferno, new elements are forged.
the main point for our discussion
It’s very interesting that “The Wedding Song” speaks of true lovers, the Twin Souls, as becoming “something new,” as morphing into a “One Person” status.
This is not chemistry. John-and-Mary love is chemistry, transitory emotional fluctuations at the surface of life based on bio-impulse and mammalian response. “The Wedding Song,” however, refers to a form of romantic love as permanent mutation, of the order of the creation of a new element, which is based on nuclear fusion.
John and Mary often speak of “working” on their marriage, trying to create true love by will-power and good intentions. But this effort is like Newton’s intensive work for 20 years in the alchemical lab – it will come to nothing; but John and Mary already know this.
And this is why, though you might interview a hundred, or a thousand, couples, even those who’ve been “working” on their marriage for 50 years, you will be hard pressed to find even one – I daresay you will not find one – who has enjoyed the kind of romance of which the Troubadour Guides speak.
Why will you not find one successful couple? - just one that's been successful in turning "lead into gold"? that is, biological/instinctual incitation into a "union of spirits."
It’s because alchemy doesn’t, and cannot, and will never, work.
Unless the "super-inferno heat," the incredible hidden power, of Universal Consciousness has joined two together at the core of being, joined them even from their day of creation, they will not, they will never, experience, what Jesus called, the marriage that "cannot be sundered."
Editor's last word:
I think part of our problem with this subject is that any time a “religious” word like “spirit,” as in “union of spirits,” is used, we immediately tune out. It’s just empty godtalk to us. It’s like FDR spurning Einstein with a disdainful “yeah, right.”
All of our lives we’ve heard from the churches about encounters with “spirit.” We're told to go to church once a week to be strengthened by God's "spirit," but we're not so overwhelmed by the infusion. We get baptized, supposedly now imbued with the “spirit,” but we feel nothing, and perceive no difference in our lives; or we get confirmed, with the promise from the bishop that the “spirit” now has more influence, but we feel nothing, no change -- I remember being disappointed about this at age ten; or we get married in a church, with solemn blessing from a minister or priest or rabbi, who encourages us to know that God has united two, and has blessed them in a special way - but we feel nothing.
All of these become examples of “the emperor has no clothes”; we’re instructed by religious peers to say certain things which should reflect an inner conviction, but we feel nothing, and so we settle for, or convince ourselves that we're required to feign a display of belief, based on will-power. These faux encounters with God, accompanied by a near-cynical or fear-based churchy stagecraft and pageantry, jade us to, program us to ignore, the real thing, should it cross our path. The church doctrines, too often, are not even “chemical fire” for us, but only a hollow legal fiction; the result of which becomes, we don’t want to hear one more word of some vaunted “spirit union.” We’ve had enough of that godtalk, even if we continue to smile politely at church.
The Troubadour Spirit Guides are well aware of this pandemic disappointment, and they know that their message will be delivered to a “tough room,” a virtual hostile audience. Even so, none of this resistance alters the fact that all the energy of the universe hides within the secret core of Consciousness, a “nuclear fire” of true love to knock your socks off, upend your life, eat you up and spit you out and recreate you. This is no empty godtalk but utmost pressing reality. As Spirit Guide Silver Birch put it, the real love is "so magnetic, so overwhelming." Note: he could have said this without the "so," but he was reaching for a superlative that could not express what he really wanted to say. He also said that the true love is part of the very essence of God's mind.
None of this is a hollow legal fiction. When it happens for you, you will remember it; a million years from now, it will still rank as a defining moment of your life.
And you will begin to understand, in a concussion of wonderment, why certain things happened the way they did, and how the circumstances of your life led you to that upending, pivotal realization.
In that day of all things becoming new, as I once expressed to an unbelieving friend, our testimony shall be, concerning the shattering revelation, the injection of nuclear-fire "spirit" into one's life -- "I remember little else."