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Soulmate, Myself:
The Wedding Song
Verse One:
The Union of Your Spirits
Part 2
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©1971 Public Domain Foundation
I am now to be among you at the calling of your hearts
Rest assured this troubadour is acting on My part.
The union of your spirits, here, has caused Me to remain
For whenever two or more of you are gathered in My name
There am I, there is Love.
A man shall leave his mother and a woman leave her home
And they shall travel on to where the two shall be as one.
As it was in the beginning is now and til the end
Woman draws her life from man and gives it back again.
And there is Love, there is Love.
Well then what’s to be the reason for becoming man and wife?
Is it love that brings you here or love that brings you life?
And if loving is the answer, then who’s the giving for?
Do you believe in something that you’ve never seen before?
Oh there is Love, there is Love.
Oh the marriage of your spirits here has caused Me to remain
For whenever two or more of you are gathered in My name
There am I, there is Love.
This is being written “out of time.” It’s probably the last submission to this roster of chapters.
My preference is to “leave well enough alone” and avoid further comment, but of late I've been bothered by what, earlier, I’d offered as sturdy meaning to the phrase “union of spirits.”
I must keep this writing fairly abbreviated as my energy level is no longer first-rate. However, here’s the problem, as I see it.
On the “soul and spirit” page, I pointed out that, so often, when writers refer to the “soul”, they ought to say “spirit”; so, too, the other way around. And now I’m wondering if I myself am guilty of this imprecision, not only in “The Wedding Song” but also several recently written articles on love and marriage. There’s too much for me to edit or sort out in a definitive way, but what I say here you’ll want to keep in mind if you read the other writings.
"... a dividing asunder of soul and spirit." Hebrews 4:12
Editor’s note: according to this New Testament document, there is such a thing as discerning, sensing a difference, between soul and spirit. This is correct, but the contrast will not become apparent to the materialistic mind; not until one has sharpened one’s finer sensibilities.
My question is, concerning the phrase “union of spirits,” is the Song really talking about the spirit or the soul? It’s a big difference.
I’d like to say that it’s well established that a Twin Soul couple is “betrothed,” so to speak, from the soul nursery, from their joint creation. If souls are linked, you can’t lose this affinity, and if you don’t have it, you can’t get it, no matter how much two might wish for it. So far so good. This much seems clear and correct.
Elsewhere, I’ve defined “union of spirits” as a meeting of the minds – similar outlook, goals, purpose in life. But the question came to me, is a “union of spirits” something two can grow into? This would have to be the case because so many Twins begin in an “out of phase” state of consciousness. They’re too immature early on to agree on much.
But what if, when the Song speaks of “union of spirits” it really means to say “union of souls”? This would change certain nuances of the Song’s message – because you can grow into a “union of spirits” but not a “union of souls.”
I’m trying to look at the Song’s verses with new eyes. The “union of spirits” of verse one, I think, is linked to the major principle in verse two, “Woman draws her life” and then affecting her mate. This concept is a pretty big deal, and, probably, there’s not enough firepower for it to have been brought to life by anything less than a “union of souls.”
This same reasoning applies to the next verse concerning the “love the brings you life.” I don’t think this could happen by mere coming to mental agreement on life purpose and goals.
What does this mean? I think it means that when the Song speaks of “union of spirits” it really means “union of souls”. Why is this important?
It’s important because it relates to how you might come to know who your Twin Soul is. For example, if “union of spirits” is emphasized, then we might say, ok, I have a good meeting of the minds with this girl, so maybe we’re good to go, it becomes evidence that we mean something important to each other.
But, there’s more to determining the identity of your eternal mate than finding one who enjoys doing what you like to do or agrees with you on politics.
I cannot recount here, again, all the factors signaling the authentic mate – but keep this in mind: anything that can be gradually assumed, grown into, can be also be grown out of, and lost. Mental agreements, mental similarities, are often a product of cultural conditioning, and might fade in and out over time.
Also keep well in mind: the attributes of the soul will assert themselves even in defiance of what the surface personality thinks it wants. There is the principle of Jackson Davis’ “inwrought adaptation.” Two Souls, at the outer level of personality, will yet grow together and find mental agreement. But this will not happen if there’s no underlying soul bond.
I’ve been wondering about this, as well: There are many soulmates but one Twin Soul. Someone might be your soulmate – girls and guys, with a soul bond, to various degrees – but soulmates per se are not meant to marry each other. Only the very narrow subset of soulmates, the Twin Soul couple, is destined to be married, together in all things, for eternity.
false reading
But the problem is this: Let’s say someone is your soulmate, and you know you have some sort of bond together. But if you’re not well along in your spiritual developmental growth, you might think, I know I have a bond with this person, and maybe I like her, so I guess this means we should get married. But, one needs to go deeper, to determine if the other is more than a soulmate.
I’ve been looking at this subject for 30 years or more, have been “testing the energies” for a long time to determine what’s real. A “union of spirits,” a mental agreement, can be something fleeting, can be grown into, but also grown out of.
But it’s different with a “union of souls.” If this is the basis of affinity, then – I will go out on a limb to say – when you meet this person, with whom you have a soul bond – I mean, a Twin Soul bond, not just the lighter grade soulmate bond – then you will feel the force of soul energy from the counterpartal other.
It might be faint. You might be 11 years old, with your “warp drive” not installed until next Tuesday; you might be angry, or distracted, which could mute the signal – but, despite this “technical interference,” I will say that you will feel something.
Now, if you’re 11, the signal might be so faint, or, if not faint, your receptors could be so offline, that you might not recognize the soul energies until 60 years later when, in unguarded moment, you suddenly realize what you were allowed to experience as a child. It might come to you as you drop your ice-cream...

Editor's note: Soul energies are eternal, never go away, never forget such encounter. Even if we're 11, on some level, the soul energies make their mark, and mess you up. They'll start to refashion you, from the inside out.
I've been over this and over this, with myself, and, after all these years, here's the best evidence I've met that you've crossed paths with your eternal Twin. Your entire being will suddenly be flooded with a sense of "rest to the soul" -- not sexual thrill. That'll probably come later, but it's not that important, especially, right off. And this surfeit of energy awareness can, or will, happen even if you're 11. The soul's message will be faint to an 11-year old boy -- not so much for a girl -- but he will be dropping his ice-cream, could be, even 60 years later.
sacred alliance: heart versus soul connection
Dr. John Welwood:
“A soul connection is a resonance between two people who respond to the essential beauty of each other’s individual natures, behind their facades, and who connect on this deeper level… It is a sacred alliance whose purpose is to help both partners discover and realize their deepest potentials. While a heart connection lets us appreciate those we love just as they are, a soul connection opens up a further dimension – seeing and loving them for who they could be, and for who we could become under their influence… Someone who loves us can often see our soul potential more clearly than we can ourselves.”
Two beings who have a soul connection desire, indeed, are compelled, to engage in a full, free-ranging dialogue with each other. However, when I place some part of myself as off-limits to discussion, I am essentially saying, “I refuse to be conscious in this place. Stay out.” This makes her feel that we do not have an unconditional connection. The ego does not want to have its cover blown; it wants to live in darkness. If we identify with this cover, we not only erode relationship but we ourselves remain alienated from who we really are. The true mate sees who we truly are and will enter into “sacred combat” to free her lover from his lower nature. She will not “go along to get along” when it comes to the sanity of her mate.
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E. As I survey all this material, I ask myself, what is really holding u
Let me restate: Here's the difference, as I see it, between a mere soulmate and the real mccoy Twin. With a soulmate, because there is a real bond, at times one might experience a tiny spark or flash of perception of "rest to the soul". But this existential "rest", I will say, can be momentary, does not linger, flees the scene. However, this is not the way it is with the authentic Twin Soul. Right from the first encounter, there is some perception of "rest to the soul." And it doesn't go away. Yes, if you're 11, it can be sublimated and repressed for a long time, but it never goes away. And when those 60 "wilderness years" finally come to an end, you will recount and regain that "rest to the soul", even when she's absent, even by merely thinking of her, even when you're not thinking of her -- physicists call this a "non-local" connection, as proximity has nothing to do with it. When this occurs, you will not be in doubt as to her identify, for her soul-energy force-field -- this sense of "rest to the soul" -- never abates, ever leads, always penetrates to the core of being. It is overwhelming. Welcome to the dazzling world of your very own agent of "the face of God" revealed. And it becomes as "The Wedding Song" describes: "Woman draws her life from Man, and gives it back again." It's a feedback loop, an unbroken circuit. It doesn't stop. And she's in charge of the process, that's why she's mentioned first. It all begins, the nuclear fires ignited, from that first moment when she glows with goodness and truth, when the inner purity of her sacred essence, radiates its warmth and love. You're never the same after this, even if you're 11.
like a quasar, the brightest entity in the universe, outshining entire galaxies, but only to you

Editor’s note: I have rewritten the concluding paragraphs of the “what we stay alive for” essay.
What is it like to meet the true mate? Let us epitomize, in short compass, all that we've said here, the essence of her tremendous gift.
Outwardly, she is not more beautiful than other fine girls; nor, objectively, is she more inwardly refined than her peers. But, she will make you feel that she is…
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false reading: a sequel to 'of human bondage'
To rephrase: if someone is a soulmate, not a Twin, we might get mere “echoes” of the real thing to come. If we’re immature, it’s easy to read too much into these whisperings. It could easily be a false reading. It could seem so real, deceivingly real, that it might qualify as sequel to "Of Human Bondage."
Footnote: Keep in mind, too, there's no such thing as "delay" concerning receipt of good things from God, we're always given as much as we can handle -- it's not delay, as such, but more prep time to ready oneself to receive. This is our real problem: we're usually not mature enough to receive.

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“The Wedding Song” wants us to know that, when Twin Souls enter spiritual union, they create the sacred One Person. This virtual new entity comes into existence not as part Woman and part Man but as “something never seen before.”
It’s a new category of being. It’s not like the underlying female and male elements. Let’s think about this. The natural world offers an analogy to help us understand.
When the elements sodium and chlorine interact they produce common table salt. But salt is utterly different from its progenitors. Salt is not sodium, it's not chlorine, and it's not a mixture of the two. Sodium is a soft metal and chlorine is a poisonous gas. Yet when they combine, they create something edible, something brand new in the universe, “something never seen before.”
Water is the product of the elements hydrogen and oxygen. But these offer no clue that their entanglement might give birth to one of the most plentiful compounds on the planet. It’s a total surprise to find water when hydrogen gas is burned in the presence of oxygen. Suddenly, something new, “something never seen before” presents itself as reality.
Salt and water are familiar but there are untold examples of compounds extant in the natural world. Each is altogether unlike its parent elements.
two emissaries, from different realms, each bearing a message
I think this phenomenon can teach us something about the product of two souls coming together. If they are meant for each other, the sacred One Person will come into being; if they’re unwarrantedly united, something less will result.
Editor’s note: What does all this really mean for us? I think it means that Twins, together, refashion themselves, more and more over the coming years, into a super-advanced spiritual entity, increasingly emulating the most august One Person – Mother-Father God. But this upgrade will not happen with just any two random pretty faces.
I once thought that when Twins come together, their union will necessarily be attended by much heady emotion, confetti parades and fanfare, an emphasis on extreme sexual thrill. I’m not so sure now. The outsized emotionalism, I think, might come eventually, to various degrees, but histrionics and melodrama are optional fare and not germane, not absolutely requisite identifiers of authentic love and marriage.
Think of it this way. There are some chemical reactions which impress and amaze with a great deal of “snap, crackle, and pop,” glittering light displays, booms and crashes. But this sensationalism varies with the particular uniting elements. Sometimes the naked eye sees nothing, with the “something never seen before” debuting almost imperceptibly.
When John and Mary come together, it’s a union based on Mother Nature’s efforts to perpetuate the species or a domestic business contract of mutual aid. The product of these unions tends not to be spiritually oriented, and could be viewed as lower-grade and merely provisional.
Editor’s note: Why a false reading? If two have at least some degree of soul bond, couldn’t they be happy together, even indefinitely? I don’t think so. This issue was discussed at length in the “Will you survive the terror of living forever?” writing. This is more than agreeing to mutual company for some years or even a mortal lifetime. This is the big leagues, playing for keeps, and eternity is a very long time – and here’s a disturbing view: when we’ve lived a hundred billion years, this duration will mean nothing, just a lowly speck of cosmic dust, compared to the endless infinities stretching out before us -- and we won’t make it unless we've acquired something very important. What is that sine qua non? We need the true mate’s ability to reveal “the beauty of the hidden face of God” to survive forever and ever and ever. Only the highest-grade Twin soul bond can deliver this; without it, a marriage, along with mental equanimity, will absolutely not endure.
the strange perception of coming to view bedazzlement as inferior to a purer grade enthrallment
Soulmates, because they do share a durable bond, might deceive themselves into believing that they ought to marry. They sense that they do share a real relationship, but its purpose falls short of matrimony. Nevertheless, the “One Person” produced by these unions could sometimes be characterized by intense sexual feelings, which might seem to be ultimate. But, they will yet find their coming together as not conducive toward highest spiritual evolvement. They will not feel satisfied with a sense of "soul completion", wholeness, of needing mothing.
Over the years, I have come across many afterlife testimonies asserting that the purpose of the real eternal love and marriage is to help Woman and Man grow into spiritual maturity. Stating it like this could make it sound like a dull affair, but it’s not that way.
The sacred One Person – a new compound in the universe – as a result of Twins’ “union of spirits” is not characterized by light displays, confetti parades, and much fanfare. Later, there can and probably will be a great deal of intoxicated emotionalism.
But the point is this: When Twins meet, when identities are unveiled, the very first impressions might not necessarily register in the mind as extreme eroticism.
what John and Mary don’t know
They tend to get things backwards. So many of them place prime importance on attractive surface qualities. They want someone who’s nice looking, pleasing to the eye.
We all want an attractive mate, but here’s the problem. If you lead with that requirement, if it’s priority, then you might not, probably will not, get a virtuous person as a mate, or at least the right one for you.
When Twins initially meet they might not see each other as winning a beauty contest. They might not count each other as very physically attractive. But here’s what will happen. If indeed they are Twins, if they have that durable highest-grade soul bond, then they’ll soon enjoy perceptions of the complete “rest to the soul.” When this happens, suddenly the outer person, seemingly magically, is transformed into a “to die for” most beautiful creature ever seen.
This unexpected swooning sense of “I can’t live without you” is not going away. It’s as permanent as the soul energies engendering it.
The important point here is, don't worry about sexual attraction. That issue automatically takes care of itself, there'll be plenty of it, and to a degree we've not known. The focus needs to be on preparing ourselves to recognize the Twin when she comes. Recognition is the real issue, not so much making ourselves fashionable.
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a different kind of light display, the scintillation of internal oneness
On what basis are Twins brought together? I believe it’s not unlikely to be an expression of the grand cosmic purpose of Twin marriage. That first meeting could very well be characterized by a perception of “rest to the soul” and "the great relief of having you to talk to." She might very well seem to him as “the hidden face of God revealed.”
Editor’s note: It does work this way, and it makes sense. Twins are attracted to each other as a function of their magnetic soul energies, which have their own factory-installed cosmic purpose. They are drawn to each other on the very basis of why Twin bonds were created in the first place.
This could be a “chemical reaction” without snap, crackle, and pop, light displays, booms and crashes. The naked eye would sense nothing, with the “something never seen before” debuting almost imperceptibly - but with an eternal ontology.
It's a quiet revolution at the level of the deeper person -- quiet but not unnoticed, with participants duly mesmerized by the profound universe-shattering implications: something new has been born -- the sacred One Person. And a million years from now, and beyond, they will well remember its advent.
Editor’s note: Consider the word “suddenly”. In my descriptions of this transformative process, I’ve found myself compelled to use the term “suddenly.” It can be a rapid succession of heart-shattering events: The timeline will vary, but, even two days prior, a girl from the past had been only a distant and vague memory. Rationality, alone, had not unlocked one’s deepest secrets. Logic, by itself, had not stormed and penetrated this well-guarded fortress. But everything might change "suddenly" when one allows oneself to recall, not just the physical image but, the energies of a long ago interaction. When these are retrieved, when we access what we were feeling, and also her energies, when she spoke to you so many years ago, “suddenly” the padlocked doors of the heart might burst open. Secret identities are “suddenly” revealed. It’s not the way we thought it was. The person speaking to you, in that ancient time, you now see clearly, possesses -- present tense "possesses", a living perception, happening in "real" historical time -- she possesses a life-force, a soul energy, a vital intelligence, not unlike your own. An astonishing discovery. It’s evident that she resembles your own inner person. A devastating revelation. As Rilke asserted: "every angel is terrible, as her beauty disdains to destroy us."
A “life-force”, a “soul energy”, a “vital intelligence”, a “rest to the soul”, a perceived desire to communicate – these phrases attempt to convey a sense of the counterpartal other’s fervent essence. But the following statement comes closest to describing:
Dr. John Welwood:
“A soul connection is a resonance between two people who respond to the essential beauty of each other’s individual natures, behind their facades, and who connect on this deeper level..."
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more than cutsie-pie adornment and trophy-girl ornamentation
Midway (2019), Richard "Dick" Best (Ed Skrein), Ann Best (Mandy Moore)
Editor’s note: If the US had lost the 1942 Battle Of Midway, the Japanese would have invaded America's West Coast and occupied Los Angeles, San Francisco, and Seattle. Dick Best was one of the incredible heroes that day. But the movie also pays tribute to his wife, Ann Best. I found her courage and moral support to be inspiring. Ann was not just a pretty face but a power in her own right. Early in the movie she and her husband are socializing at the Pearl Harbor Officer’s Club. Ann takes the opportunity to speak more than frankly to the commanding brass, demanding: “My husband is the best pilot you have and why isn’t he squadron leader?” She was correct, and later he filled that position. Also, when Dick returned from battle, in a wheelchair having been injured and now grounded from further flying, I much admired Ann’s approach and attitude. Compassionate but refusing any notion of victimhood, she forthrightly encourages him, “Well, now you can become skilled at something else, and you have your whole remaining life to figure this out.” It seemed to me that Ann was the perfect mate for the great warrior, as she mirrored his resolve. All this is healthy dynamic and terrific role model for authentic marriage. The psychologically well-developed wife is no retiring wallflower but can stand toe-to-toe when required. She is much more than cutsie-pie adornment, more than decorative garnish to his image. She's a force, and right there, emotionally, in the thick of things, close to him, with him, in both sorrow and victory. Her focus is on life, how can we, together, better engage and embrace life? Ann Best offers new dimensions to "what we stay alive for." I think she's the perfect complement to one of the fearless men who saved America. She's the kind we're looking for.
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And with this realization -- that she possesses a life-force, a soul energy, a vital intelligence, not so unlike your own -- new perceptions press upon the mind. Further, romantic attraction “suddenly” fills the void, comes unbidden, surprises. And all this unveiling prompts the question, what is love, really?
Because of the close quarters, the rapid succession, in which these events present themselves, we might begin to perceive and infer the true nature of love.
And so what is love? It has to do with “you are just like me,” a sense of “homecoming,” an “utter familiarity.” A mere soulmate might offer fleeting glimpses of this wonder, but with the Twin Soul, it's steady stream, steady state, does not go away (though the intensity can vary).
Because of the sudden transformation of oneself, it can seem unreal, striking one as too anomalous, even fanciful, to be true. “How can I feel so much, and so deeply, when two days ago she was a virtual stranger to me?” However, we need to ask, stranger to whom? To the surface personality, there could be confusion, but not to the deeper person.
We’re hesitant to accept that we might have actually encountered our destined eternal mate. It’s a pretty big deal and seems unlikely to have really happened. We need to keep in mind, though, the “rest to the soul” cannot come via any pretty face. Only one can do this to us. And so, do you know what this means, Marty?
I like the way Douglas Adams put it: "Even the skeptical mind must be prepared to accept the unacceptable when there is no alternative. If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, we have at least to consider the possibility that we have a small aquatic bird of the family Anatidae on our hands."

But the inner person is not confused. This sequestered part of us has long been looking for its mirror-image counterpartal other. On that deeper level, there is no anomaly but great joy due to “you've been gone for a very long time, I'd been looking for you all my life, but now ‘suddenly’ you’re home.”
Clearer than before, I think I know what true love is, I mean, at basis, down to the rivets. What we call "love," its highest grade, is the joy of recognizing oneself, one's own soul, in a sacred other, one particular other.
This is why they're called Twin Souls.
the bio-organism is programmed to survive, but an encounter with the true mate unleashes more, an impulse to soar, blossom, achieve
Restatement:
It’s the strangest feeling to find oneself in the presence of the isomorphic other. She does not flirt or flaunt. There is no attempt to impress or even to persuade. All flows naturally. The actual words might have been lost in the fog of time, yet her message still resounds, supported by an energy making clear her purpose. She wants to talk about life. There’s a tacit assumption, each to the other, that we ought to interact this way. We speak as if we are well acquainted. A certain sudden familiarity imposes. Yes, she wants to talk about life, but there's more. She will make one feel like living life; there’s a desire to live – a newfound impulse to soar, enlarge, expand, to grow -- much more than before. There’s a breathless quality to this meeting, an exuberance, a blossoming. Immaturity will likely repress these moments, but they’re not gone and forgotten. And in the unforgiving 3 AM introspections, possibly, many decades later, the buried remnants of that encounter will rise to the fore. And now, “dropping one’s ice-cream” in mid stride, one realizes there’s unfinished eternal business.
Editor’s note: “Dividing asunder” soul and spirit, as the scripture denotes, is not the only surgical procedure. It’s the same for happiness and joy. Can we distinguish? I recall experiencing, with a purported soulmate, laughing together. At the time it felt so good, I judged it “the happiest moments of my life.” Strangely, in the aftermath, and to this day, I've never felt compelled to find my way back to that outsized happiness. It was a surface-of-personality pleasure based upon “happenings,” events in the world. While acknowledging it as wonderful as it occurred, after it was over I felt, deep within, that I could hardly be bothered to replicate it. Is this not strange? As I draw near to that old energy, as I momentarily relive the happiness of laughing together, I also note that the energy of that ancient event seems – how shall I say? – gross, heavy, not of a higher order. This is puzzling. But it does account for my cavalier non-commitment to do it again. However, let’s perform the surgery of “dividing asunder” happiness from joy. I will focus on the aforementioned receipt of a purported Twin’s “rest to the soul.” With this, I’m suddenly plunged into new territory. This is not at all like the evanescent happiness. The joy of encountering a “rest to the soul” strikes one as utterly profound, wide and deep. I am shaking in the aftermath. Truth be told, there is no demarcation of “aftermath.” It’s steady state, still presently imposing, not going away. I feel like I’d taken a wrong turn, must have stumbled into the presence of God, was overcome by the “beatific vision,” and now soul and spirit well perceive that I shall never be the same. With happiness, even the greatest happiness of life, I said, I couldn’t be bothered to cross the street to have it again. But this is worlds apart, totally different. Having discovered that one person who seems to be gatekeeper to “the soul’s rest,” suddenly one is terrified at the possibility of losing this access, and access to her. This is no take it or leave it, comme ci, comme ça proposition. It’s life and death. A hidden part of one's person is now unable to stop swooning -- swooning for what? not just for a pretty face, no not that, but for a source of life in the form of one particular girl. Once the eyes open to this ultimate reality, you’re all done, you need this now. And so, congratulations, atta boy, kid – you’ve just met your eternal romantic Twin Soul mate.
Restatement: “Swooning for what?” The swooning heart is very common in boy-meets-girl events. Nothing new with this. What’s different here is that the swooning is not precipitated by a pretty face. This doesn’t mean she’s not pretty, or that good looks aren’t important, but the swooning in Twin relationships is likely not based upon traditional allures of external beauty. This statement will make no sense to John and Mary. Why else would you swoon if you’re not taken by bodily attraction? The answer here is that Twins perceive an entirely different source for swooning. Yes, she may be “pretty enough for all normal purposes,” as Emily’s mother said in Our Town. But there’s something else prompting the swooning for Twins. It’s the soul energies unleashed by the beloved. These result in overwhelming feelings of “rest to the soul.” They’re far more potent than what John and Mary know. And they’re permanent.
Restatement
false readings
We want this too much. And so we, ourselves, are the easiest ones to fool. There are some who, as Mark Twain used the phrase, merely “rhyme” but are not authentic in terms of what we really want and need. But we are often the last to know.
There is a difference between the real Twin Soul, the real answer to one's longings and the idea of love, even, the image of ideal love, etched upon the soul of each person. This image of ideal love is not generic in nature but well particularized, and we shall recognize it when encountered.
We were made to resonate with a unique, particular other. But when someone comes along who serves only to "rhyme,” we might easily fall prey to our own dissimulation. We want this too much.
Certain individuals seem to have the power to activate, bring to life, that ideal of love etched upon one’s soul. They might make us believe in that an actualization, that something wonderful, of substance, has happened when, in fact, there is no natural life inherent, only shadow and echo. We are deceived.
Yet it can all seem very real while under the influence, until closer inspection, a testing of the spirits, reveals the counterfeit hundred dollar bill.
How to detect this fraud of the heart inflicted upon ourselves? As Dr. Bohm instructed, we must be “constantly sensitive to incoherence” as “the ego will distort reality” to protect itself.
We must "divide asunder soul and spirit," enter “confirmation hearings” – if possible, with the other person in question but, in any case, with ourselves, and this, every day of our lives.
Only an honest and piercing introspection might save us; if not, more suffering will oppress the mind.
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