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Verse One: The Union of Your Spirits Part 2
©1971 Public Domain Foundation I am now to be among you at the calling of your hearts A man shall leave his mother and a woman leave her home Well then what’s to be the reason for becoming man and wife? Oh the marriage of your spirits here has caused Me to remain
This is being written “out of time.” It’s probably the last submission to this roster of chapters. My preference is to “leave well enough alone” and avoid further comment, but of late I've been bothered by what, earlier, I’d offered as sturdy meaning to the phrase “union of spirits.” I must keep this writing fairly abbreviated as my energy level is no longer first-rate. However, here’s the problem, as I see it. On the “soul and spirit” page, I pointed out that, so often, when writers refer to the “soul”, they ought to say “spirit”; so, too, the other way around. And now I’m wondering if I myself am guilty of this imprecision, not only in “The Wedding Song” but also several recently written articles on love and marriage. There’s too much for me to edit or sort out in a definitive way, but what I say here you’ll want to keep in mind if you read the other writings.
"... a dividing asunder of soul and spirit." Hebrews 4:12 Editor’s note: according to this New Testament document, there is such a thing as discerning, sensing a difference, between soul and spirit. This is correct, but the contrast will not become apparent to the materialistic mind; not until one has sharpened one’s finer sensibilities.
My question is, concerning the phrase “union of spirits,” is the Song really talking about the spirit or the soul? It’s a big difference. I’d like to say that it’s well established that a Twin Soul couple is “betrothed,” so to speak, from the soul nursery, from their joint creation. If souls are linked, you can’t lose this affinity, and if you don’t have it, you can’t get it, no matter how much two might wish for it. So far so good. This much seems clear and correct. Elsewhere, I’ve defined “union of spirits” as a meeting of the minds – similar outlook, goals, purpose in life. But the question came to me, is a “union of spirits” something two can grow into? This would have to be the case because so many Twins begin in an “out of phase” state of consciousness. They’re too immature early on to agree on much. But what if, when the Song speaks of “union of spirits” it really means to say “union of souls”? This would change certain nuances of the Song’s message – because you can grow into a “union of spirits” but not a “union of souls.” I’m trying to look at the Song’s verses with new eyes. The “union of spirits” of verse one, I think, is linked to the major principle in verse two, “Woman draws her life” and then affecting her mate. This concept is a pretty big deal, and, probably, there’s not enough firepower for it to have been brought to life by anything less than a “union of souls.” This same reasoning applies to the next verse concerning the “love the brings you life.” I don’t think this could happen by mere coming to mental agreement on life purpose and goals. What does this mean? I think it means that when the Song speaks of “union of spirits” it really means “union of souls”. Why is this important? It’s important because it relates to how you might come to know who your Twin Soul is. For example, if “union of spirits” is emphasized, then we might say, ok, I have a good meeting of the minds with this girl, so maybe we’re good to go, it becomes evidence that we mean something important to each other. But, there’s more to determining the identity of your eternal mate than finding one who enjoys doing what you like to do or agrees with you on politics. I cannot recount here, again, all the factors signaling the authentic mate – but keep this in mind: anything that can be gradually assumed, grown into, can be also be grown out of, and lost. Mental agreements, mental similarities, are often a product of cultural conditioning, and might fade in and out over time. Also keep well in mind: the attributes of the soul will assert themselves even in defiance of what the surface personality thinks it wants. There is the principle of Jackson Davis’ “inwrought adaptation.” Two Souls, at the outer level of personality, will yet grow together and find mental agreement. But this will not happen if there’s no underlying soul bond. I’ve been wondering about this, as well: There are many soulmates but one Twin Soul. Someone might be your soulmate – girls and guys, with a soul bond, to various degrees – but soulmates per se are not meant to marry each other. Only the very narrow subset of soulmates, the Twin Soul couple, is destined to be married, together in all things, for eternity. false reading But the problem is this: Let’s say someone is your soulmate, and you know you have some sort of bond together. But if you’re not well along in your spiritual developmental growth, you might think, I know I have a bond with this person, and maybe I like her, so I guess this means we should get married. But you have to go deeper, to determine if the other is more than a soulmate. I’ve been looking at this subject for 30 years or more, have been “testing the energies” for a long time to find out what’s real. A “union of spirits,” a mental agreement, can be something fleeting, can be grown into, but also grown out of. But it’s different with a “union of souls.” If this is the basis of affinity, then – I will go out on a limb to say – when you meet this person, with whom you have a soul bond – I mean, a Twin Soul bond, not just the lighter grade soulmate bond – then you will feel the force of soul energy from the counterpartal other. It might be faint. You might be ten years old, with your “warp drive” not to be installed until next Tuesday; you might be angry, or distracted, which could mute the signal – but, despite this “technical interference,” I will say that you will feel something. Now, if you’re ten, the signal might be so faint, or, if not faint your receptors could be so offline, that you might not recognize the soul energies until 65 years later when, in an unguarded moment, you suddenly realize what you were allowed to experience as a child! It might come to you as you drop your ice-cream.
Editor's note: Soul energies are eternal, never go away, we never forget such encounter. Even if we're ten, on some level, the soul energies will make their mark, and mess you up. They'll start to refashion you, from the inside out. I've been over this and over this, with myself, and, after all these years, here's the best evidence I've met that you've crossed paths with your eternal Twin. Your entire being will suddenly be flooded with a sense of "rest to the soul" -- not sexual thrill. That'll probably come later, but it's not that important, especially, right off. And this surfeit of energy awareness can, or will, happen even if you're ten. The soul's message will be faint to a ten-year old boy -- not so much for a girl -- but he will be dropping his ice-cream, could be, even 65 years later. He catches on quick. Such a waste of good ice-cream. Let me restate: Here's the difference, as I see it, between a mere soulmate and the real mccoy Twin. With a soulmate, because there is a real bond, at times one might experience, in the other's presence, a tiny spark or flash of perception of "rest to the soul". But this existential "rest", I will say, can be momentary, does not linger so much, flees the scene. However, this is not the way it is with the authentic Twin Soul. In her presence, right from the first encounter, there is some perception of "rest to the soul." And it doesn't go away. Yes, if you're ten, it can be sublimated and repressed for a good while, or a long time, but it never goes away. And when those 65 "wilderness years" finally come to an end, you will recount and regain that "rest to the soul", even when she's absent, even by merely thinking of her, and even when you're not thinking of her -- physicists call this a "non-local" connection, as proximity has nothing to do with it. When this occurs to you, you will not be in doubt as to her identify, for her soul-energy force-field -- this sense of "rest to the soul" -- never abates, ever leads, always penetrates to the core of being. It is overwhelming. Welcome to the dazzling world of your very own agent of "the face of God" revealed. And it becomes as "The Wedding Song", describes: "Woman draws her life from Man, and gives it back again." It's a feedback loop, an unbroken circuit. It doesn't stop. And she's in charge of the process, that's why she's mentioned first. It all begins, the nuclear fires are ignited, from that first moment when she glows with goodness and truth, when the inner purity of her sacred essence, just for you, radiates its warmth and love. You're never the same after this, even if you're ten. false reading: a sequel to 'of human bondage' To rephrase: if someone is a soulmate, not a Twin, we might get mere “echoes” of the real thing to come. If we’re immature, it’s easy to read too much into these whisperings. It could easily be a false reading. It could seem so real, deceivingly real, that it might qualify as a sequel to "Of Human Bondage." Footnote: Keep in mind, too, there's no such thing as "delay" concerning receipt of good things from God, we're always given as much as we can handle -- it's not delay, as such, but more prep time to be ready to receive. This is our real problem: we're usually not mature enough to receive. Give things a little time. The truth will present itself.
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“The Wedding Song” wants us to know that, when Twin Souls enter union, they create the sacred One Person. This virtual new entity comes into existence not as part Woman and part Man but as “something never seen before.” It’s a new category of being. It’s not like the underlying female and male elements. Let’s think about this. The natural world offers an analogy to help us understand. When the elements sodium and chlorine interact they produce common table salt. But salt is utterly different from its progenitors. Salt is not at all like sodium and not at all like chlorine. Sodium is a soft metal and chlorine is a poisonous gas. Yet when they combine, they create something edible, something brand new in the universe, “something never seen before.” Water is the product of the elements hydrogen and oxygen. But these offer no clue that their entanglement might give birth to one of the most plentiful compounds on the planet. It’s a total surprise to find water when hydrogen gas is burned in the presence of oxygen. Suddenly, something new, “something never seen before” presents itself in the universe. Salt and water are familiar to all of us but there are untold examples of compounds extant in the natural world. Each is altogether unlike its parent elements. two emissaries, from different realms, each bearing a message I think this phenomenon can teach us something about the product of two souls coming together. If they are meant for each other, the sacred One Person will come into being; if they’re unwarrantedly united, something less will result. I once thought that when Twins come together, their union will necessarily be attended by much heady emotion, “confetti parades and fanfare,” an emphasis on extreme sexual thrill. I’m not so sure now. The outsized emotionalism, I think, might come eventually, to various degrees, but histrionics and melodrama are optional fare and not germane, not absolutely requisite identifiers of authentic love and marriage. Think of it this way. There are some chemical reactions which impress and amaze with a great deal of “snap, crackle, and pop,” light displays, booms and bangs. But this sensationalism varies with the particular uniting elements. Sometimes the naked eye sees nothing, with the “something never seen before” debuting almost imperceptibly. When John and Mary come together, it’s a union based on Mother Nature’s efforts to perpetuate the species or a domestic business contract of mutual aid. The product of these unions tends not to be spiritually oriented, and could be viewed as lower-grade. Editor’s note: Why is it a false reading? If two have at least some degree of soul bond, couldn’t they be happy together, even indefinitely? I don’t think so. This issue was discussed at length in the “Will you survive the terror of living forever?” writing. This is more than being together for some years or even a mortal lifetime. This is the big leagues, playing for keeps, and eternity is a very long time – here’s a disturbing view: when we’ve lived a hundred billion years, this will mean nothing compared to the endless infinities stretching out before us -- and we won’t make it unless we have something very important. What is that sine qua non? We need the true mate’s ability to reveal “the beauty of the hidden face of God” for our mental sanity to survive forever and ever and ever. Only the highest-grade Twin soul bond can deliver this; without it, a marriage will absolutely not endure. the strange perception of coming to view bedazzlement as inferior to a purer grade enthrallment Soulmates, because they do share a durable bond, might deceive themselves into believing that they ought to marry. They sense that they do share a real relationship, but its purpose falls short of matrimony. Nevertheless, the “One Person” produced by these unions could sometimes be characterized by intense sexual feelings, which might seem to be ultimate. But, when the dust settles, they will find that their coming together is not conducive toward highest spiritual evolvement. They will not feel satisfied with a sense of having done the right thing. Over the years, I have come across many afterlife testimonies asserting that the purpose of the real, eternal love and marriage is to help Woman and Man grow into spiritual maturity. Stating it like this could make it all sound like a dull affair, but it’s not that way. There’s just as much, or more, eroticism with authentic marriage. But the difference is this: The sacred One Person – a new compound in the universe – as a result of Twins’ “union of spirits” is not characterized by light displays, confetti parades, and much fanfare. Later, there can and probably will be a great deal of intoxicated emotionalism, at the right time. But the point is this: When Twins meet, when identities are unveiled, the very first impressions might not necessarily register in the mind as extreme eroticism.
a different kind of light display, the scintillation of internal oneness On what basis are Twins brought together? I believe it’s not unlikely to be an expression of the grand cosmic purpose of Twin marriage. That first meeting could very well be characterized by a perception of “rest to the soul” and "the great relief of having you to talk to." She might very well seem to him as “the hidden face of God revealed.” Editor’s note: It does work this way, and it makes sense. Twins are attracted to each other as a function of their magnetic soul energies, which have their own factory-installed cosmic purpose. They are drawn to each other on the very basis of why Twin bonds were created in the first place. This could be a “chemical reaction” without snap, crackle, and pop, light displays, booms and crashes. The naked eye would sense nothing, with the “something never seen before” debuting almost imperceptibly - but with an eternal ontology. It's a quiet revolution at the level of the deeper person -- but this cosmic event will not go unnoticed, with participants duly mesmerized, by the profound universe-shattering implications: something new has been born - the sacred One Person. And a million years from now, and beyond, they will well remember. Editor’s note: Consider the word “suddenly” - In my descriptions of this transformative process, within tight compass of a few paragraphs, I’ve found myself compelled to use the term “suddenly.” The described closely-contained human interaction might serve as controlled laboratory to explore the meaning of “I love you.” It can be a rapid succession of heart-shattering events: The timeline will vary, but, possibly, two days prior, a girl from the past had been only a distant and vague memory. Rationality alone had not unlocked one’s deepest secrets. Logic, by itself, had not stormed and penetrated this well-guarded fortress. But everything might change "suddenly" when one allows oneself to recall the energies of a long ago interaction. When we retrieve the energies of the past, when we access what we were feeling, and also her energies, when she spoke to you so many years ago, “suddenly” the padlocked doors of the heart might burst open. Secret identities are “suddenly” revealed. It’s not the way we thought it was. The person speaking to you, in that ancient time, you now see clearly, possesses -- present tense "possesses", it's a living perception, happening in "real" historical time -- she possesses a life-force, a soul energy, a vital intelligence, not so unlike your own. This is an astonishing discovery. All of your life, if you thought of her at all, she seemed as little more than a distant girl accosting you. But now it’s evident that she resembles your own inner person. It’s a devastating insight.
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And with this realization -- that she possesses a life-force, a soul energy, a vital intelligence, not so unlike your own -- new perceptions press upon the mind. Further, romantic attraction “suddenly” fills the void, comes unbidden, surprises you. And all of this unveiling prompts the question, what is love, really? Because of the close quarters, the rapid succession, in which these events present themselves, we might begin to perceive and infer the true nature of love. And so what is love? It has to do with “you are just like me,” a sense of “homecoming,” an “utter familiarity.” A mere soulmate might offer fleeting glimpses of this wonder, but with the Twin Soul, it's steady stream, steady state, does not go away (though the intensity can vary). Because of the sudden transformation of oneself, it can seem unreal, striking one as too anomalous, even fanciful, to be true. “How can I feel so much, and so deeply, when two days ago you were a virtual stranger to me?” However, we need to ask, stranger to whom? To the surface personality, there could be confusion, but not to the deeper person. We’re hesitant to accept that we might have actually encountered our destined eternal mate. It’s a pretty big deal and seems unlikely that it might have really happened. We need to keep in mind, though, the “rest to the soul” cannot come to us by any pretty face. Only one can do this to us. And so, do you know what this means, Marty?
I like the way Douglas Adams put it: "Even the skeptical mind must be prepared to accept the unacceptable when there is no alternative. If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, we have at least to consider the possibility that we have a small aquatic bird of the family Anatidae on our hands."
Our inner person is not confused. This sequestered part of us has long been looking for its mirror-image counterpartal other. On that deeper level, there is no anomaly but great joy due to “you've been gone for a very long time, I was looking for you all my life, but now ‘suddenly’ you’re home.” Clearer than before, I think I know what true love is, I mean, at basis, down to the rivets. What we call "love," in reality, its highest grade, is the joy of recognizing oneself, one's own soul -- one's essential person-defining deeper energies -- in a sacred other, one particular other. This is why they're called Twin Souls.
the bio-organism is programmed merely to survive, but an encounter with the true mate unleashes an impulse to live, soar, blossom, achieve, to grow Restatement: It’s the strangest feeling to find oneself in the presence of the isomorphic other. She does not flirt or flaunt. There is no attempt to impress or even to persuade. All flows naturally. It’s as if each subliminally understands the other even before words are spoken. The actual words have been lost in the fog of time, yet her message still resounds, supported by an energy making clear her purpose. She wants to talk about life. There’s a tacit assumption, each to the other, that we ought to interact this way. We speak as if we are well acquainted. A certain sudden familiarity imposes itself. Yes, she wants to talk about life, but it’s more than this. There’s no determined effort. Words come easily. It’s because a certain someone makes one feel like living life; there’s a desire to live – a newfound impulse to soar, enlarge, expand, to grow -- much more than before. There’s a breathless quality to this meeting, an exuberance, a blossoming. Immaturity will likely repress these moments, but they’re not gone and forgotten. In the unforgiving 3 AM introspections, possibly, many decades later, the buried remnants will rise to the fore. And now, “dropping one’s ice-cream” in mid stride, one realizes there’s unfinished eternal business to see to.
Editor’s note: “Dividing asunder” soul and spirit, as the scripture denotes, is not the only tricky surgical procedure. It’s the same for happiness and joy. Can we distinguish? I recall experiencing, with a purported soulmate, laughing together. At the time it felt so good, I judged it “the happiest moments of my life.” Funny thing though, in the aftermath, and to this day, I've never felt compelled to find my way back to that outsized happiness. It was a surface-of-personality pleasure based upon “happenings,” events in the world. While acknowledging it as wonderful as it occurred, after it was over I felt, deep within, that I could hardly be bothered to replicate it. Is this not strange? “Happiest moments” seem to come pretty cheap in the marketplace. As I draw near to that old energy, as I momentarily relive the happiness of laughing together, I also note that the energy of that ancient event seems – how shall I say? – gross, heavy, not of a higher order. This is puzzling. But it does account for my cavalier non-commitment to do it again. However, let’s perform the surgery of “dividing asunder” happiness from joy. I will focus on the aforementioned receipt of a purported Twin’s “rest to the soul.” With this, I’m suddenly plunged into new territory. This is not at all like the evanescent happiness. The joy of encountering a “rest to the soul” strikes one as utterly profound, wide and deep. I am shaking in the aftermath. Truth be told, there is no demarcation of “aftermath.” It’s steady state, it's not going away. Its intensity varies, but it’s not going away. I feel like I’d taken a wrong turn, must have stumbled into the presence of God, was overcome by the “beatific vision,” and now soul and spirit well perceive that I shall never be the same. With happiness, even the greatest happiness of life, I said, I couldn’t be bothered to cross the street to have it again. But this is worlds apart, totally different. Having discovered that one person who seems to be gatekeeper to “the soul’s rest,” suddenly one is terrified at the possibility of losing this access, and access to her. This is no take it or leave it, comme ci, comme ça proposition. It’s life and death. A hidden part of one's person is now unable to stop swooning -- swooning for what? not just for a pretty face, no not that, but for a source of life in the form of one particular girl. Once the eyes open to this ultimate reality, you’re all done, you need this now. And so, congratulations, atta boy, kid, we knew you could do it – you’ve just met your eternal romantic Twin Soul mate. Restatement: “Swooning for what?” The swooning heart is very common in boy-meets-girl events. Nothing new with this. What’s different here is that the swooning is not precipitated by a pretty face. This doesn’t mean she’s not pretty, or that good looks aren’t important, but the swooning in Twin relationships is likely not based upon traditional allures of external beauty. This statement will make no sense to John and Mary. Why else would you swoon if you’re not taken by bodily attraction? The answer here is that Twins perceive an entirely different source for swooning. Yes, she may be gorgeous, “pretty enough for all normal purposes,” as Emily’s mother said in Our Town. But there’s something else prompting the swooning for Twins. It’s the soul energies unleashed by the beloved. These result in overwhelming feelings, erotic feelings, of “rest to the soul.” They’re far more potent than what John and Mary know. And they’re permanent.
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